“Take a good hard look at people’s ruling principles, especially of the wise, what they run away from and what they seek out.” ~ Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 4.38
All our lives we have had people teaching us one thing or another. Usually, it’s well-intended. As you get older, it’s important to learn from people who have done what you would like to accomplish. You can see what they have done, and not done, to get where they are. There is no reason to reinvent the wheel. Just be sure to watch somebody who is actually doing it and is not all talk.